Energy Cords Reveal Soul Lessons

Posted February 24, 2017 in Energy Anatomy

Clients are shocked when I know details about their relationships that they have not revealed to me. I explain to them the subtle relationship dynamics of how they fight with their husband, their parents or their boss at work. How do I know these intimate details like your son needs to be comforted immediately or he will have a fit but your daughter needs 10 minutes alone to calm down? I have learned to read and understand the energy cords that exist between people.

Have you ever wondered why you can’t stop daydreaming about an ex even though you know he (or she) is a terrible match? Have you ever felt guilt-tripped after talking to a family member and can’t get the conversation out of your head?

Sometimes we feel frustrated when we know it is time to rationally move on from something, but emotionally can’t. Nine times of out ten, there are energetic reasons (not just emotional reasons) why we feel terrible. One way we can preserve our own energetic and physical health, as well as the health of our relationships, is by learning about energy cords.


Energy cords (sometimes called ethereal or etheric cords) are connective tubes that allow the transmission of information, energy and emotion between spirits. Cords are often not visible to most people, yet, with training to visually see the aura and chakra system, it is possible to see them visually. Most people feel the cords. The place where the cord connects to the physical body can be an area where we feel emotionally drained or empowered, physical heat, tingling or pain. We can not be corded unless we have given permission (consciously or unconsciously) for the cord to be there.

Cords are often plugged into the front or back of a chakra within the body. Chakra is a Sanskrit word which means, ‘spinning wheel’. Chakras are energy centers (which look like wheels) located throughout the body. There are 7 main chakras located along the spine–from the base to the top of the head. We also have many smaller chakras which make up the accupressure or accupuncture points.

We can have energy cords not only with people, but also with loved ones that have crossed over or other energetic entities (like spirit guides).

It is essential for energetic hygiene to check and remove cords on a regular basis. It is often beneficial to clear family cords (no matter how well intentioned) because we often have ‘codependent cording’ which is interpreted as loving but actually drains both parties involved. If a relationship has been verbally, sexually or physically abusive, the cording traps us like a spider web to the past, lost in unconscious, unhealthy patterns.

Sometimes I see clients that are looking for love but are not ‘energetically available’ because they are tied to an old partner. When we have sex with a partner we are often emotionally vulnerable and energetically open for cording to develop. When we cut old cords we are making ourselves available to manifest loving relationships in present time.

Clients often worry if they cut a cord they will lose the good memories, or the relationship to the other person on the cord. Yet, cord cutting actually makes us more available for healthy intimacy–with the people to which we have been corded, as well as new relationships. We never have to feel guilty for cutting a codependent energy cord. It updates the karmic contracts into present time, so we can experience an evolved, non-reactive relationship. Then we are available to see the other person clearly–instead of trying to change them or being repeatedly ‘set off” emotionally. Even if the cord is with an individual in spirit form, (a loved one who has crossed or a spirit guide) cord cutting allows us to find new ways to  communicate much more consciously–spirit to spirit.

Be aware that when you cut a cord you will often get ‘push back’ from the other individual, in an attempts to keep the cord anchored in place. Often clients are shocked when they receive an out-of-the blue text, email or phone call, right at the time we have cut the cord. If this happens, hold strong and do not allow the other person’s ego reaction to sway you.

With some of the stronger, deeper cords (like with a parent or an intense romantic relationship) where we are not as objective, it can be helpful to get an impartial person to sever the cord. If you do this, make sure the practitioner communicate to you and clear the root Soul Lessons or reasons the cord was initially attached. This makes the lessons on the Soul contract conscious instead of shifting back into unconscious patterning where the cord can reattach.

Some practitioners recommend to call in an ascended master, like Archangel Michael with his powerful sword and ask that all negative cords be cut. Some will say you do not need to know with whom the cords are connected and the reasons they were formed. Yet, from the Soul’s perspective, the reason we have karmic relationships that create cords is to gain loving consciousness regarding personality differences for spiritual growth, evolution and development. To skip this step would be dismissing an incredible Soul opportunity and classified as spiritual bypassing.

For more resources on energetic hygiene and separations:

My book on energetic codependency titled, Authentic Intuition.

And my Power Reset meditation for energetic boundaries.



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  1. Juanita Gutierrez
    Saturday, March 18th, 2017
    This informative was a spiritual awaking for me. I had a few energetic codependency with family and some were very painful. I have worked through them and let them go. The experience left me as a more awareness and bounderies with family members. Thank you for writing this information.
  2. John
    Thursday, June 25th, 2020
    I remember when I did a forgiving exercise (which ended in unexpected bawling) regarding my relationship with my ex, she called me out of the blue a few days later because she wanted to apologize to me for how she had treated me. It had been years since I'd heard from her, but I hadn't been able to take her out of my head even for a single day.
  3. Lana D R
    Saturday, December 26th, 2020
    Thank you for this useful precious information, can cord cutting help with patterns of intense emotional investment with men I'm attracted to & anxiety around men?

    I'm trying to be brave and overcome my anxiety & deep rooted emotions (BPD & anxiety, intrusive thoughts etc) & find love in person as opposed to online, I've made progress but need to keep spiritual hygiene.

    Any advice & suggestions kindly welcome,
  4. Lana D R
    Saturday, December 26th, 2020
    Also, I feel something attached in solar plexus and sacral chakra (uncomfortable & painful) , I want to release these cords, HOW do I do this? What crystals can I use to do this also?
  5. Attention
    Sunday, February 14th, 2021
    Give permission you say. It’s enough for someone to say hello and if you respond they can cord and steal your energy and avoid looking people in the eyes then they can steal more energy. I don’t think responding is giving permission by any means regardless of consciously or unconsciously so permission maybe is the wrong word to use but instead the word interaction which is what makes them able to steal your energy therefor block people if they affect you negatively, if someone can steal your energy by phone call they can also do it through text messages and emails if you respond

    And do not mention these people if you talk about them what they did then you cord back to them as well and thus making their connection successful.